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Building a Relationship with Yourself AKA Me, Myself and Irene?

Building a Relationship with Yourself AKA Me, Myself and Irene?

When you think about how you feel about yourself, and how well you know yourself, how do you score on a scale of 1 – 10? If you feel that you know yourself very well, but you are on the lower side of how much you like yourself, then it might be time to start thinking about how you can build a better relationship with yourself. Lets Explore this.

Stop Focusing on the Dealings of Others/ Social Media Pitfalls

There are tons of distractions that can be found out in the world, but some of the worst distraction to get involved with are those that comes from spending too much time focusing on and critiquing the lives of others. It can be extremely easy to fall into the habit of concerning yourself others. Especially in this era of social media where everyone is posting what they had for dinner, where they went on vacation, what honor life has bestowed upon them lately! It’s easy to fall into a rut of watching others live their best life instead of focusing on doing this yourself.

Or even worse, it might be a manifestation of insecurities that you feel towards yourself due to constant comparing. My friend told me ages ago (pre social media era0 THE FAMED LITTLE WORD PHRASE, “COMPARE & DESPAIR” . She also said dilution is no solution but that’s for another time…No words ring truer for the now social media age. Remember way back when you dreaded going to uncle Bob’s for dinner because he would pull out the latest vacation slide show? Hours of him showing you what a great time he had. What a snoozer! Now we log on and can’t help but see the same slide show x 100!.

Take a step back. Turn off the posts you’d rather not participate in. Only you are aware of how you feel so take notice of your feeling and when you find yourself in a cranky snit, stop and ask yourself why?

.If you feel others have the perfect life that eludes you, you aren’t alone. It’s the downside of social media. If you feel as though you are constantly scrutinized by others, it’s important to remember that they might not even be aware that you feel any discomfort at all. It’s not their job to post content that helps you to feel better about yourself. That’s a job for each individual/ Most of the time, people are primarily focused on how they are seen by others. They are solely focused on themselves so don’t worry, the truth is they probably aren’t giving you a second thought!

Learn to Forgive People

It’s really hard to make a better relationship with yourself when you carry a lot of baggage from past dealings with people. The moment we have is now. It’s our most powerful moment. Things sometimes happen that can make your feel a little bit sour about having relationships with others but it’s important to remember that you don’t need to hold into these things. Let them just be things that happened and move on. It’s been said that forgiving people is more about being healthier for yourself than the person you are forgiving. This is because holding onto to anger and pain will only cause you to feel negatively about a lot of other things in your life. If you’ve been knocked around emotionally a few times, a face it, who hasn’t, hanging onto the bitter or hard feelings closes your heart up to the positive awesome relationships that come your way. Not only then do you hang onto toxic anger, you isolate yourself and keep your distance from possibly goodness that wants in.

Hint: Start with forgiving the easy ones first and work up to the big ones! I make a list of names and repeat after each one, “I forgive you, I forgive me and I send you Love and Light”

Once you have forgiven someone completely, the part of your mind that has been holding onto those toxic thoughts and feeling will be free to focus on better things.You free up space in there for positive things to come your way.

Learn from the experience because you don’t want to repeat it or call in the same kind of person. You can use that brain power to think of ways to put good things into the world around you. There are a lot of ways to spread positivity, and the best ways involve doing something from the heart.

Take Time to Help Someone in Need

There are few joys that can compare to the feeling you get when you help someone who really needs help. When you’ve been spending a lot of time focusing on yourself in unhealthy ways, a really good way to break out of that is also to help someone else. This puts them in the forefront of your mind for a time, and this can help you to appreciate the situation that you have as well. It also brings a feeling of gratefulness and appreciation. These feelings are the fastest way out of a hurtful funk.

There are a lot of programs that involve helping the homeless and elderly or lately with the weather related tragedies people are in constant need of volunteers that can help dilute the strain placed on other people who are already busy in the community. You might be surprised by the outpouring of gratitude that comes from people who haven’t been used to getting the help that you’re helping to provide. This can create connections and inspire the future success of people who might not have had the opportunity otherwise.

Write a Journal or a Letter to Yourself

Part of getting to the deeper parts of yourself is taking time out of your day to put your thoughts on paper so that you can read them back to yourself. Sometimes it takes this kind of exercise in order to be able to get a sense of what is truly on your mind. You might have doubts about recent decisions, or you might need to see your thoughts out in front of you to make those final choices. Whatever the case may be, this will help you to begin to prioritize your feelings and thoughts about things. Once you’ve drawn some conclusions it’ll be easier to make real changes based on the information you have about yourself.
Grab your laptop or a pen and paper and just write any word or feeling that comes to mind. Nothing coming? Doodle your feeling out. You’d be surprised and what pours out of you once you let go.

Meditate

Do yourself a favor and practice meditating every day. It does not have to be a big deal. Ten Minutes a day, every day will change your life. Everyone has 10 minutes. Wake up 10 minutes earlier. Put your phone down and shave 10 minutes off of your social media time. This is what I do..
Sit somewhere you will not be disturbed
Turn the timer in your cell to 10 minutes
Turn the volume/buzzer and notifications off
Take a deep breath and close your eyes
Sit in quiet and listen to some background noise like a fan or the sound of your breath.
When your mind races, and it will, bring it back to the sound you’re focusing on.

Don’t be upset with yourself for any reason, it defeats the purpose! There is no right or wrong. Let go and relax into it. Some days will be easier than others. If you get your mind clear for 10 seconds out of 10 minutes, it’s a win! Keep practicing every day and you will see the world through a different lens. Your mind will be open to things you’ve never imagined.
Soon enough Me, Myself and Irene will be one big happy family!